As westerners, we are conditioned to be achievement machines. We calendarize our meetings, our appointments and praise those rise the cooperate and cultural bar of success. But most people do not schedule time to make amends with loved ones, reflect and meditate on how far we've come and assess why we are doing what we are doing.
No matter what race, age or status there are universal principals that can connect or disengage you with other people.
Self awareness is vital to becoming a confident person in life. It's discovering and working out your beliefs, motivations, fears, strengths, weaknesses and learning to respond to people's expectations and forming your own.
Sometimes you can doubt your value. You may feel under appreciated at work, or afraid to leave a friend/social setting, unsure about feeling credible enough to put your ideas out there in the public arena...what ever the situation is a level of CERTAINTY is required to TAKE ACTION.
I’ve recently changed my whole working week schedule to free up time to prioritise my business, family time and have rest time. Its been life changing - but confronting.
“Rest” time has been the hardest thing to actually do. I realised that whenever I would try and relax and do “nothing” - no music writing, no blogging or videoing- no work related stuff I would feel an emotion of guilt, shame and stress.
Levels Of Change
I recently got inboxed by a student who moved from Australia to NZ recently who wanted some advice on how to deal with change and make new friends. Have a listen to the video.
Action Plan To Cope With Change
Our brains naturally look for the danger - that function of the brain has kept us alive for millions of years. But the brain also needs to be guided, taught how to find constructive ways to push through change and discomfort. One of the ways to teach our brains to think differently is to adopt a philosophy of asking questions.
WHAT IS THE CHANGE?
Identify what the actual change is and how it effects you. Think about the 4 levels of change. Is it sudden? Is it small? Is it exciting or difficult? Is it an external change or internal?
WHAT ARE THE POSITIVES ABOUT THE CHANGE?
We have to look for the opportunities and not just focus on the losses. What opportunities are in front of me now that this change has happened?
WHAT CAN BE CONTROLLED?
Is this change something that can be reversed? What can I take ACTION on? If I can't change what happened, then what can I DO to more forward (refer to your answers to the previous question.)
WHERE CAN SUPPORT AND ADVICE COME FROM?
Borrowing heads and gaining support will get you through some of the toughest periods ever. Call upon the obvious people that are in your life that you know can offer you some guidance.